The resolution to end a bond can be traumatic, confused, turbulent, disordered, chaotic, and packed with conflicting sentiments.
There are also distinct emotions, feelings, attitudes, stances, and dynamics connected with whether one is in the initiator’s character or the recipient of the determination to break up. For example, it is not uncommon for the initiator to experience anxiety, nervousness, fear, relief, distance, impatience, resentment, doubt, and guilt. Besides, when a party has not started the split, they may feel upset, shocked, appalled, betrayed, lose control, victimization, decreased self-esteem, insecurity, anger, a desire to “get even,” and wishes to reconcile.
Divorce generates fiery turbulence for the entire family and closed friends, but for children, the circumstance can be wholly scary, challenging, complexed, difficulted, disturbed, confusing, and frustrating:
Young children often strive to learn why they must go between two homes, two cities, two countries. They may suffer that if their parents can quit cherishing one another, their parents may cease admiring them someday.
Elementary school children may suffer that divorce is their responsibility. They may dread they failed or may think they did something sinful.
Adolescents may grow quite bitter about the divorce and the shifts it produces. They may condemn one parent for the end of the union or begrudge one or both parents for the family’s explosion.
Of course, each case is unique. A child may appear comforted by the parting in severe episodes — if a divorce implies fewer conflicts, struggles, disputes, and less stress.